Online dating has become a popular way to meet people, offering exciting opportunities to connect with others from all walks of life. With Valentine’s Day on the horizon, many singles may be inspired to swipe, match, and message in hopes of finding or meeting up with a special connection. However, while the digital dating world offers convenience and possibility, it’s also important to prioritize safety. With that in mind, the Division of Public Safety and Security (DPSS) wants to remind you of essential online dating safety tips to help make your online dating experience both secure and enjoyable – this February and beyond.
According to research from the Pew Research Center, over 50% of adults aged 18-30 use, or have used, dating apps. This means that many people on campus and the surrounding community could be trying to connect using these methods, so it is important to remember some essential safety tips while using online dating apps:
- Avoid connecting with suspicious profiles. If a profile has no image or a single, non-descriptive image, it may either be a fake account or an account with malicious intent.
- Do research before meeting in person. To legitimize the connection and avoid being lured into a relationship through a fictional online persona, try to find (or ask for) social media accounts connected with that person. Having mutual friends also is a good sign that the profile is legitimate.
- Block and report suspicious activity. If someone is sending harassing messages or making you uncomfortable, utilize the feature to block and anonymously report the user. Additionally, if you suspect a scam, such as another user asking for money or financial assistance, promptly utilize the app’s report feature or report it to the police.
- Do not give out personal information to someone you have not met. Personal information includes work or home addresses, passwords, personal finances, social security numbers, credit card numbers, and other information that can distinguish or trace an individual’s identity.
- Try meeting in a digital space first. Meeting/talking on FaceTime, Zoom, or Skype is a low-stakes way to meet someone and confirm that they are the same person in their posted photographs.
- Trust your instincts. Always tell a friend or relative where you are going and who you will be with before you meet for the first time. If you are uncomfortable, do not worry about appearing rude. Call 911 if you feel you are in danger.
“It’s important to remember that if you do experience concerning behavior, sexual assault, or violence while dating or at any other time, it is not your fault,” said Maureen Burke of the DPSS Special Victims Unit (SVU). “U-M has resources and is here to help.”
SVU can help address any concerns related to your safety. Additionally, they partner with confidential and free advocacy groups, such as U-M’s Sexual Assault Prevention and Awareness Center (SAPAC) and SafeHouse Center.
If you need assistance or have an emergency, contact DPSS 24/7 at (734)763-1131 or call 911.
It’s important to be familiar with the safety tips and resources provided by the apps you are using. For example, below are dating safety articles provided by a few common apps, for ease of reference. Always remember to be thorough and do your research!